What it can look like
Grief doesn't follow the neat stages it's sometimes described in. It can come in waves years after the fact, triggered by something small - a smell, a date, a song. In men it's often carried privately, behind competence, because there's an unspoken expectation to be the steady one for everyone else.
It isn't only about death, either. Loss can mean a relationship ending, a friendship fading, a version of your life or your future that isn't coming back. All of it is grief, and all of it is worth taking seriously.
When it's worth talking to someone
- You held it together for everyone else and never actually processed it yourself.
- It's been a long time and people have stopped asking, but it hasn't lifted.
- You feel guilty about how you're grieving - too much, too little, the wrong way.
- A loss is affecting your sleep, your work, or your relationships, and it's not easing.
- You're avoiding reminders - places, dates, conversations - rather than sitting with them.
What working with Chris looks like
I work integratively, mostly person-centred for this - grief doesn't respond well to a fixed structure, and the work follows what you bring, at your pace. There's no timeline you're supposed to be on and no 'stage' you're meant to have reached by a certain point.
Some of the work is simply having somewhere to say the things that don't fit anywhere else - the anger, the relief, the guilt, the things you can't say to the family. None of that needs editing in this room.
Questions worth asking.
Is it normal to still be struggling years later?+
What if I feel things I'm not supposed to feel - relief, anger, guilt?+
I don't cry much. Does that mean I'm not grieving properly?+
What if the loss wasn't a death - a relationship, a job, a version of my future?+
No commitment. No form.
Book the free 15-min call.
A short conversation to see if this is the right fit for you. If it is, we book a session. If it isn’t, I’ll point you somewhere better.