Redundancy and career
can shake more than your income

Why it hits harder than it 'should'

For a lot of men, work quietly became the main source of identity, structure and self-worth - often without anyone deciding that on purpose. When it's taken away or stops working, what's underneath isn't just financial stress. It's often a harder question: who am I, and what am I for, without this?

Redundancy can also carry a specific shame that other losses don't - a sense of having failed or been found wanting, even when the decision had nothing to do with your performance.

What it can look like

• A blow to your sense of worth that feels bigger than 'just' losing a job.
• Avoiding telling people, or downplaying it when you do.
• Restlessness or a loss of structure now the working day has gone.
• Applying for roles half-heartedly, or not applying at all.
• A creeping sense of 'what's the point' about work generally.

What working with Chris looks like

This isn't career coaching or CV advice - it's counselling for what's underneath the job search: the identity question, the shame, the pressure you're carrying at home, the version of yourself you're not sure how to be without the role. Working integratively, person-centred as the foundation with CBT where it's useful, the aim is to steady the ground under you while you work out what comes next.

Some of the work is practical - noticing where the pressure is actually coming from, and what's yours to carry versus what isn't. Some of it is slower - looking at what you built your identity on, and whether it's time to build on something less fragile.