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Depression in men
often looks like nothing at all

Depression in men rarely looks like the version on TV. It's not always tears or staying in bed. More often it's flatness - going through the motions, functioning at work, feeling almost nothing behind it.

This page covers what depression can look like in men, when it's worth talking to someone, and what working with Chris looks like if you do.

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What it actually looks like

Depression in men often hides behind competence. You can be showing up, hitting deadlines, being a dad, being a husband - and still be somewhere underneath it, flat. Things that used to matter don't pull the same way. Food doesn't taste like much. Nothing's technically wrong, but nothing feels like anything either.

It can also come out as irritability rather than sadness - a shorter fuse, less patience, snapping at people who don't deserve it - which is one reason it goes unnamed in men for so long.

When it's worth talking to someone

  • You're functioning, but nothing feels like it used to - not work, not people, not things you enjoyed.
  • You're more irritable than sad, and it's landing on people you love.
  • Getting through an ordinary day takes more effort than it should.
  • You've thought some version of 'what's the point', even in passing.
  • You're relying on alcohol, work or screens to get through evenings.

What working with Chris looks like

I'm an NCPS Accredited Registrant working integratively - person-centred as the foundation, with CBT where it helps break the specific thinking patterns that keep low mood circling. I also hold AIMH specialist registration in perinatal and infant mental health, which is relevant if what you're carrying started around becoming a father - paternal postnatal depression is real, and it's rarely asked about.

Some weeks the work is practical - what's actually maintaining the flatness, and what small changes genuinely move it. Other weeks it's slower - understanding what's underneath. Both matter.

Getting started

Book the free 15-minute call and say what's going on, in whatever words you've got. If what you're carrying needs more than counselling alone - your GP and medication can sit alongside this work - we'll talk about that honestly too.

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Before you book

Questions worth asking.

How do I know if this is depression or just a rough patch?+
A rough patch usually lifts as circumstances change. Depression tends to persist even when things improve on paper, and it's marked by that flatness - a loss of pull toward things that used to matter. If it's been most days for a couple of weeks or more, it's worth talking to someone.
Do I need medication?+
Not necessarily. Plenty of men work through depression with counselling alone. For some, medication from a GP alongside counselling is the right combination, particularly where it's severe. Either way, counselling isn't in competition with it.
I became a dad recently and I don't feel connected. Is that depression?+
It can be. Paternal postnatal depression is more common than most men realise, and disconnection or numbness in the early months is a real symptom, not a character flaw. It's worth naming directly on the free call.
What if I'm not sure it's bad enough to justify counselling?+
You don't need to hit a threshold. Functioning while feeling flat is still a fair reason to talk to someone - you don't need to be in crisis for it to count.
How long does it usually take to feel different?+
There's no fixed timeline. Pay-as-you-go from £35 a session means you stop when it's doing what you need - some men notice a shift within a handful of sessions, others need longer. We check in regularly on whether it's working.

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A short conversation to see if this is the right fit for you. If it is, we book a session. If it isn’t, I’ll point you somewhere better.

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